We all know that marriage is a school that offers no certificate, a job for which no income is earned. Also marriage is never a bed of roses. However, certain things would help you keep strong when those rough edges begin to show. Before you say “I do” to him or her make sure of these points:
DOES HE or SHE HAVE A VISION?
You need to find out if they visualize the future how it tallies with yours. Do they always see everyday of their married life as Christmas party?; good food, tasty wine, nice hairdo and wears and so on. Do they never want to imagine that there would be times when they would have to scrap just to get through? Can you deal with that on a long term? Do they have solutions to problems? Do they encourage you nicely? How often do they come up with workable ideas to salvage things?
¤CAN YOU FOLLOW WHERE THEY LEAD?
This concerns the ladies to a large percentage than the men, because the man is the head of a family(at least here in Africa). So ladies, ask yourself if you like their lead. Does he come up to take charge or expect you to ‘get along just fine on your own’? Does he volunteer to bear the responsibilities that comes from living? How spiritually balanced is he to direct you? When push gets to shove where does it leave him?
Does that agree with who you are? Is that what you want a man to be?
MEN – who does she see you as? When you speak, how many percentage does it score with her decision making? Ultimately what she does after you have spoken shows how she serious or not she take you to be. What moves her? Do you like that? Is that what you can deal with?
CAN YOU IMAGINE YOUR CHILDREN CALLING HER/HIM “MUMMY”/”DADDY”?
Children are a blessing from God Most High.
When those blessings(children) come and start to express themselves, can you hear their tiny voices calling her/him their mother/father? Fast-forward to years of their adolescents and adulthood… Is he/she an influence you would love to see recreated in your children? Are they what you would be proud to multiply in the society?
IS HE/SHE COMMITTED?
Do they keep their word?
A man’s word(vise versa) should be his bound. Can you see them riding the high and low waves with you? 5years, 10years, 20-50years later do you see them still keeping that promise of being there? Do they stick with things they’ve started? or do they start but never get finished? What is their view on ‘long term’? “Let’s see how it goes” or “I’m willing to make it go strong”? Does this agree with you? Do you think that’s good?
A lot of times we get told not to rush into marriage, but most times we make that leap without a moments thought.
When you think you have found what you are looking for, be sure(@least 75%) they would be what you would have several years down the road.
written by: Successa Hillary